Senior Head's Blog: Joining the Felsted Family

 


Making a new start is always challenging, and with more new starters this year at Felsted than in any previous year during my time here, there must be a lot of people out there undergoing the nerves and uncertainty of making that new start.  

Although young people are highly adaptable and cope well with change, the default starting point for many teenagers is that they do not want change. They like what they know - perhaps like most adults as well! Starting a new school is not just about being in a different place, but it is about building a whole new set of relationships and friendships, and these are emotionally tiring.  If you add in the challenge (for some) of being away from home and boarding for the first time, undergoing this change may well be even more difficult. 

However, I do not want to sound negative about change, because, as experience will teach us, change is often very good. In fact, it can be incredibly powerful and provides an opportunity to try new things, to reflect on past mistakes and do things differently, and to experience whole new cultures that will enrich our lives. 

Our memories can be fickle and we can look back fondly on past times, because by the end, we built up our positive feelings, but even with the best finish, the start might well have been harder to negotiate. It is absolutely normal to feel some uncertainty when facing change, to find unfamiliarity unsettling and to have nerves when you start something new. Some people hide it better than others of course!

When we persevere, and actively seek out new opportunities, we can maximise the benefits of a fresh start, making new friends, trying out new experiences and developing ourselves as individuals. If you are one of those new to the Felsted community, and may be feeling a little nervous at this point, keep your faith (garde ta foy!), keep going and see what positives you can take out of this new experience. If you are an old hand, remember that everybody who is new will feel some nerves, but will benefit greatly from you reaching out to them and offering the hand of friendship.

Chris